As an empath, do you feel continually invaded?
By others’ needs, their pain, their demands? And you are the one who “gets it” due to your sensitivity.
So aren’t you the one to fix it?
What if you DON’T WANT TO?
(IT’S TIME TO CALL THE BOUNDARY BOUNCER!)
So…
Interpersonal Boundaries. Not an all or nothing.
Simply put…Boundaries are where you end and I begin.
You are responsible for you.
I am responsible for me.
Neither of us is responsible FOR the other.
Even as people who are highly sensitive and empathic receivers and perceivers.
We have choices here: Each of us determines how open or closed we are to the other person’s needs, feelings, thoughts, energy fields…
In other words, we then determine how we might want to respond…or not…to whatever is coming our way.
The camera’s lens (its “eye”) adjusts the amount of light and the focus through its aperture settings.
Hopefully, we are constantly adjusting our own “empathic apertures” to filter out what is an “over-exposure” and allow more light in where it’s dim.
And our empathic apertures don’t just need to adjust for light and other aspects of the visual field, but for all kinds of incoming stimuli: sound, smell, taste, touch, as well as our sense of safety vs. danger, spatial safety and comfort, what our bodies need, the amount and type of contact we have with other beings…
So we actually have LOTS of ways to open up to this aspect, be more guarded with this energetic input…to customize our response to another being.
We just have to respect that it is NORMAL, OK, HEALTHY to shield more here, set limits there, so that we can be open and available where it keeps us healthy and happy in our own lives.
That’s why I knew that our first course together has to Build Better Boundaries. Healthy boundaries are skilled boundaries, and as empaths, we need to be highly skilled at maintaining clear, strong, resilient boundaries. Boundaries that let in the good and keep out the bad. They return “choice” to you.
And I know that it needs to be highly interactive because as an empath, you know where you struggle. You know where you wish you had skills to keep your boundaries resilient and healthy. And I teach best when you are telling me where your struggles are and where you want help. So that makes for a potent combination of skill-building right where YOU need it!
P.S. So click here to be notified when we have our first group and are ready to embark on our journey together into Better Boundaries. You will also get my two FREE guided meditations and accompanying PDF so that you can do something right now to build your resilience!
P.P.S. In the meantime, I would love to hear from you. What are your biggest struggles as an empath?
