Boundaries. We talk about them all the time, particularly in the sense of “So-and-so has no boundaries!” I use the term boundaries a little differently than how many people do, but I think ultimately it is a more accurate way to think about this term. Blame me if you don’t like it, but give credit […]
Boundaries vs. Limits Last time, we looked at boundaries—how we all have them because boundaries basically mark where you end and I begin. When a person has rigid boundaries, they can be perceived as being closed tightly, inflexible, impermeable. You can’t “get in.” Someone with rigid boundaries may have a mindset that can’t be changed—no […]
As part of my Somatic Experiencing training, I had to complete a certain number of personal SE sessions and consultations to make sure I was learning SE both from my own inside out and the outside in with my client work. Enter Dorothy One of those personal sessions was with a Training Assistant who could […]
This morning I lost it. Rage came pouring into me like a sudden tsunami hitting my shore. I yelled. I screamed. I slammed down my dishes filled with a lovely breakfast waiting to offer me morning fuel. It felt absolutely huge, and while I knew a good portion of it was my own fight response […]
This is one of my bugaboos. I have known lots of folks who use their highly empathic nature as a shield…Oh no, I am SO SENSITIVE, TOO EMPATHIC…I CAN’T (fill in the blank…go there, do that, be around that person…) Does being an empath doom me to being more “fragile” in a highly stimulating world? […]
If You Suffer From High Sensitivity to Perceived Disapproval… When you have hyper-sensitivity to what’s coming from other folks, it can sure activate a lot of turmoil in your system. And… While we will seriously work on this later on, this is a rather funny story about an important lesson that this individual and I […]
This post is actually not about you. It is actually about our world. It is about the polarization going on in every realm (and the in-betweens)… About the haves and the have-nots… About those embracing change even when it is overwhelming and those fighting to save the status quo that is crumbling around them… About […]
I would guess that many of us who are Empaths and Highly Sensitive People (HSP) have felt heavy and overloaded when sensing and helping process the more extreme acts of destruction and harm in the world. It is certainly important to take care of yourself when your empathic nature takes on the task of helping […]
Do you find your empathic nature—being to understand and share the feelings of another— often results in boundaries that are too open and porous to most situations? You feel flooded. You perceive so much, and as a result, you feel compelled—perhaps even obligated—to fix the situation because you don’t want the other person to […]
This is an interesting and often challenging one, don’t you think? While Socrates (and many others) may have advised, well, “Know Thyself,” in practice I don’t always find it so easy. As an empath, I am always picking up “stuff” from other people. I am always scanning for “Is this mine, or is it not?” […]